Feb 01 2009
Desperation of Love
Valentine’s day is fast approaching and most of our minds as we think of the first of Febrary beginning. Today I’m thinking of all those in our communities who are so desperate for someone to love them that they’d go to any lenghs to acheive what most of us everyday take for granted.
At the tender age of seventeen Erica’s parents went through a divorce. Heartbroken and betrayal filled her heart. She choose to stay with her father. Her boyfriend John stood close to her side and after they both graduated from highschool, they got married.
Erica became controlling. She didn’t allow John to go anywhere without her, and if she didn’t want to be there neither was he for long. John got a job to support them, yet Erica refused to hold down a job for long. Erica didn’t clean, didn’t do laundry, and didn’t cook for her husband. He came home tired, beat, and became depressed. Fast food containers were the main decoration through their house.
Erica’s leash was strangling him, so after a year of marriage John left.
When six months later Erica was served with divorce papers she wrote John a letter begging him to come back to her. He had felt freedom and seen the other side of the fence. Since the letter brought only angiush to John’s heart, Erica now desperate to get her husband back, lied.
Erica and John got back together, based on the promise of Erica’s impending pregnancy. A new home was acquired, furniture was bought, and Erica had everything she wanted , she was back to her old ways and she had the man she loved.
Out of her desperation to get John back in her life she overlooked one important factor - she lied. John’s mom couldn’t contain her excitment over the thought of a first grandchild. Invitations were sent for the shower, then Erica became scared. She wasn’t pregnant. So to cover up her first lie - she lied again. This time she told John the baby had died.
John and his family soon discovered Erica’s lie. It wasn’t hard. Erica told them she didn’t need any medical attention, the baby would just absorb back into her body. John’s mom was a nurse.
Erica had been so desperate to reclaim her life with John’s she had been willing to scarfice anything to achieve it. This young woman didn’t believe anyone would ever love her but the young man she married. She overlooked her father, she overlooked the mother who had parted ways from Erica’s father, but still loved her, and she overlooked her siblings and freinds. She couldn’t see beyond her own pain and disappointment to allow the truth to be her savior.
How far will love take you this year?
Today, if you know someone who is lonely, who is hurting, or who like John and Erica is seperating from a spouse - be willing to help them get the support they need. We live in a time of desperation. People are desperate to feed their families. People are desperate to acquire jobs and stability. Most of all, we are all just desperate to have somebody to hold, or someone to hold on to us.
Reach out and grab that desperate person. Wrap your arms around them and don’t let them drown in their own situations. A wise man once said, “Problems are only created by the bad situations we create for ourselves.” If your feeling desperate and you don’t know where to go, tell someone, even a stranger on the roadside, but don’t allow yourself to fall in the same pit of this young woman.
There is hope beyond desperation, and there is love above all else in the one who created you.
